The midfielder was left out of the matchday squad as Saints picked up their first Premier League win of the season with a comfortable 3-0 victory over 10-man Norwich.
Koeman said before the game that Wanyama was not “mentally and physically good enough to play” against the Canaries and, after seeing his side brush off Norwich courtesy of a Graziano Pelle strike and a brace from Dusan Tadic, he revealed the details of a conversation with the Kenyan last week.
“It is a difficult situation because Victor mentioned himself that he is not with his mind to the team,” Koeman said.
“If Victor shows the commitment to the team and he comes back we would like to have him in the team, that is no problem. If he keeps playing like this he is playing with his own future and that is not good.
“It was important to play with players who are really committed to the team and really focused on today. The situation with Victor is that he has lost some focus to the team, to the club and that is the reason I finally took the decision to keep him out of the squad.”
Koeman insists Wanyama will still be a Southampton player when the summer transfer window closes on Tuesday evening despite the former Celtic man telling the Dutchman he wants leave St Mary’s. Tottenham have been reported as being interested in the player.
“We had a meeting and it is true (that he has asked to leave), but it is the same question what it was for Sadio (Mane) and every player in this team – nobody is for sale,” he said.
“That is an easy answer and the player has to accept that, maybe it is good for Victor to talk to Morgan, because I think he is more happy now than he was last year even to do the move he wanted at that moment.”
Koeman was referring to Schneiderlin’s own desire to leave the club – again with Tottenham showing interest – 12 months ago. However, at that time Southampton dug in and told the France international he would not be allowed to go having already sold a host of first-team regulars. Instead, Schneiderlin left the club this summer for Manchester United.
“Victor is a very important player and is one of the key players,” added Koeman.
“After losing again for this season some good players it was the same statement we did with Morgan last year. No change, nothing. We need that commitment from the players.
“It is not about the move or the money, it is about the feel in the moment. The Schneiderlin situation was still in the pre-season, this is in the last week of the transfer window – that makes it different but not a difference in our statement.”